Why you shouldn't be in a relationship now?

Why you shouldn't  be in a relationship now?

Why you shouldn't  be in a relationship now?

By Ifediogor Uche 

Everyone has one reason or the other while they are dating or want that relationship. Some might be due for it, while some on the other hand just feel like doing it to belong. They dont just want to be single, even though they are not ready yet. And this is where some get it wrong.  No man would want to build a house without planning, and counting the cost. However,  

If you want to date because you don’t want to be single and not that you are ready, it will not go down well  in the end.  I think relationship  requires good timing. If the timing is wrong, chances are that it will falter.

At some point in life, that feeling, emotion and youthful  exuberant will pop up.  Of course everyone want to feel loved. We want affection, we want to be in a relationship. 

But the question  most folks often neglect or fail to ask themselves  is am I ready for this. Am I actually ready for a relationship?  Or am I doing it because  Mr A is doing it? 

In this article, we have put of some reasons why you shouldn't be in a relationship  now. They are as follows;

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1. You are not matured

Yes,  you heard it right. Relationship  is not  just about catching  feelings professing love, hanging out and lots more. Relationship goes beyond fantasy. It's  all about maturity. If you are not matured  you can't handle  relationship. Its like buying a car to a child and expect the child to drive, he would crash the car  cos he's not ready yet to learn. 

Relationship  can't stand if you are not matured enough  to take responsibility.  Don't get it twisted maturity  is actually not about age but if you are too young  to know the purpose of why you are in a relationship  then it will fail. If you can't offer valuable  advice to  your partner then their is no point being in a relationship. Its not  all about fun, kissing, cuddling, sex and all the sweeteness that ensues.  You have got be matured to be in a relationship. 

2. Focus On Self Development  First 

Low self esteem  is one of the worst thing that  can happen  to anyone. When you feel bad about yourself, that voice tells you you aint good enough. Or maybe you are not confident, you  have insecurities issue. This may be a sign that you aint ready yet for a relationship. This will affect you and your partner if you dare entering a relationship. Because  you may not be able to manage different  situation if the need arises in the relationship. 


3. You Are  Broke

Love, even the truest and purest is quiet  difficulty  to prove when you are broke. This is why you should consider not pursuing a relationship when you have no source of income.

These days many have termed relationship  as transactional.People may like you because you are financially ok.  Meaning if you are broke or poor you can't be in a relationship. This may not give so many people with pure intention  to be in a relationship, knowing fully well that they won't be able to chest some responsibility that involves  finance. All your good intentions, emotions, care will amount to nothing if you don't have money. 

Relationships are not meant to solely be dependent of  what money can buy, but these days it is what it is. 

Take it or leave it one of the spices of relationship  is money. No money no honey.

4. You are not emotionally secured

Relationship  is not  a child's play. Its a thing someone going into it needs to be prepared for the good, the bad and the ugly. You must be emotionally strong.  If you are not  emotionally secure in yourself  then you should  not be in a relationship. Every requires timing, however you have to work on your emotions and when the time  is right you will know.

5. Not ready to commit to one person

Many people jump into a relationship because they don’t like being alone not because  they are ready to be committed with one person. 

Sadly,  people  go into relationship  but they keep jumping ship inside the relationship. They are not committed  to their partner  in the relationship. If you are not ready to fully commit self to one person it’s not time for you to be in a relationship.

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