Does a whole day at the gym make a difference ? 

It is no longer news that in the space and time we have found ourselves, most people desire great physique. There is no doubt that they need no magician to know that mere desire for great physique doesn't get the work done.

To get great physique, people commit to working out each and every day and those who hold on to this always get what they want but on the other hand, those whose flare dies off because maybe they spent a whole day at the gym hoping to get great physique only to be discouraged and wish that a gym candy can get the work done. It is only then that they come to terms with the fact that spending a whole day at the gym doesn't make a difference but consistently working out for just 30 minutes everyday for 356 days will make a stunning difference.

 

This is largely due to the great power of compounding. People on several occasions pay avid attention to intensity instead of consistency.  The intensity of doing things is all about the degree at which things are done while consistency is the frequency at which things are done. This entails how regular something is done.

Can you mention any celebrated champion you know that didn't put in many years of consistent practice before becoming one, in the world of sports ? I doubt if there is any and that confirms the fact that it doesn't matter the field of endeavour you find yourself, life is all about consistency. To achieve your goals and aspirations in life, you need to consistently do what is required. Without consistency, nothing gets completed and there will be no substantial achievement.

 The importance of consistency remains glaring even to the blind. No matter your expertise in your chosen career, once you become inconsistent, you find out that you start diminishing in your productivity. One of the world's greatest instrumentalist once said, “ If I miss a week of practice, I know it but if I miss 2 weeks of practice, my critics know it and if I miss 3 weeks of practice, my audience knows it". This clearly demonstrates the relevance of consistency in all we do.

To further illustrate the power of consistency, I want you to pay close attention to what I am about to say in the next few lines. In the far East, there is a tree called the Chinese Bamboo tree. This phenomenal tree takes five years to grow. It requires to be watered and nurtured until it breaks through the ground. It doesn't break through the ground until the fifth year and when it does, it grows ninety feet tall just in five weeks. What this means is that watering and nurturing it for just four years will not get it to break through the ground unless it is consistently done for five years. For you to have your “ninety feet tall Chinese Bamboo tree” in any field of your endeavour, you have to consistently water and nurture it each and every day for five years. 

Consistency can be developed for anything you are doing despite that it is not an easy one but I assure you that if you do, it will be a turning point in your life. The best way to get this done is by always fixing your mind on the desired result in whatever you are doing rather than on the processes you have to go through. This gives a formidable reason why you have to keep doing whatever you need to do until you get your desired result.

Remember, a whole day at the gym doesn't make a difference.

Trust you have got value for your time. Let me know in the comment box.

Ogele Damian

Copy Writer / Content Creator

Do this and your life will experience 10X Transformation

In the year 2016, Gallup, an international organization popularly known for conducting public opinion polls carried out a worldwide poll to determine the percentage of people who are happy in the world but they were gobsmacked as they discovered that 87.6 % of the world's population is unhappy. For your information, this represents a staggering number of 7.65 billion people of the world's population. What this simply means is that those cute smiling faces in each and every corner of our cities and streets are not really happy as we assume they are.

This reality is largely due to the fact that most people live by impulse. This means that they are not intentional about living so, they live merely by the urges that show up at any given time of their life. The obvious truth is that no one gets anywhere worthwhile without being intentional about life. Being intentional about what you hear, what you speak, what occupies your mind and your environment (association) will bring 10X transformation in your life.

Successful wealthy people like Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Elon Musk, Warren Buffet, Ted Turner and the list goes on all have one strategic thing in common, they are intentional about living and that has translated into making them high performance people in all fields of life. Being a high performance person means being all you can be 24/7 and 365 days a year. It means consistently pushing the edge of the envelope no matter what.

The question you will be asking right now is how can one be intentional about living ?

The answer is summed up in what I call the Tripod Strategy (TS)  which has proven to very effective when properly utilized.

1. Define your Purpose/ the Life You are Hungry for

Engage in mulling moments, discover your true purpose and the kind of life you will love to live, When you are done with this process, write down your purpose and the kind of life you desire. Remember, the faintest ink is better than the strongest memory. This is very pivotal and will serve as checks and balances to keep you from deviating.

2. Have a Blueprint for your Daily Life

Consciously and meticulously draft out your to-do list and incorporate daily activities that are in line with your defined purpose. Keep track of your daily progress to evaluate how effective you have been and determine if you are a step closer to your defined purpose at the end of the day. Remember, what gets measured, gets accomplished.

3. Be Conscious of your Environment (association)

To achieve this, you have to be careful about the people you associate with on daily basis. Picture yourself been around Bill Gates for a month.Will your life be transformed ? The answer is obvious, your life will be 10X transformed. Make sure you hang around those who are living a purposeful life and are hungry to grow. Your association influences your productivity.

It is advisable to keep track of the people you meet and hang around with daily and how they take you a step closer to your purpose. This singular act will help you know who to filter and who to keep because your association will certainly rub off on you. Remember, eagles never fly with sparrows.

 Be intentional about your living and your life will be 10X transformed.

Trust you find this helpful.

Stay tuned to this platform as there will always be tons of valuable contents for your consumption.

Ogele Damian

Copy writer/ Content creator

SUICIDE IS NEVER A SOLUTION!

Yagazie have started seeing a therapist three times a week. Sometimes he spoke about his session, and other times he did not, but always he wanted to hear about her new life; how well she had adjusted to her strangely familiar environment.

Mom had once asked Kosisochukwu on one of her regular visits, “'Kedu ihe o na-eche?’ What was he thinking?” Because it baffles her, how a young boy like Yagazie would want to kill himself!

“Suicide has never been the end but the beginning of pain,” Kosisochukwu said. Although, she never wanted to judge Yagazie’s action but she just needed to respond to Mom’s inquest.

The report from World Health Organization (WHO) on (September 9, 2019) revealed that suicide is topping the chart as the number one killer with an average of one person every forty seconds.

Even if that is a global index painting a general picture, a recent survey shows that there is a surging height of suicide mortality rate in Nigeria, although many of the deaths are kept away from the public arena.

“It did not happen!!” Kosisochukwu had often told herself this for the first few days and yet endless, elliptical thoughts of what could have happened churned in her head. She was sleepless at first, “What was on his mind?” she would lie awake at night, thinking and turning, her mind held hostage by thoughts of what could have been, until she fell, finally, into a drained sleep.

Although it was impossible to comprehend, but it did happen, Yagazie had tried to kill himself.

It was on a sunny Thursday afternoon while Kosisochukwu was returning from a seminar at Hotel Presidential, Port Harcourt, her phone rang. She stopped along the walk-way to fumble on her handbag for it and, at first, the voice on the other end of the phone was incoherent, she stained her eyes to identify the calling, it was her Mom, talking and sobbing at the same time, Kosisochukwu thought she said Yagazie was dead. But what Mom was saying was “o nwuchagokwa, Yagazie anwuchagokwa.” Yagazie had nearly died.

Nevertheless, while pundits are discussing various causes as to why Nigerians are taking their own lives, what looks like a common denominator is depression; a prevalent ailment that the government and citizens seem to pay scant attention to in Nigeria.

“He took an overdose of pills,” Mom said, as her voice cracked with her own disbelief. “It was God that told me to go home much earlier. It was just God! I saw Yagazie lying on the couch looking so sweaty, sweat all over his body, and immediately I panicked. I was confused by different thought on my head.” Already, Kosisochukwu was shaking. A vehicle horned past and she pressed her finger into her other ear to hear Mom’s voice better. “Where are you now?” Kosisochukwu asked.

“At the hospital, we’re at the hospital, ‘Live Long Clinic’,” said Mom.

“Have they confirmed his situation now?” Kosisochukwu asked.

“The Doctor found some signs of liver toxicity.”

“You said what?” Kosisochukwu asked confusedly, feeling choked by those words, liver toxicity; as a sudden darkened air engulfed her reasoning.

“Kosisochukwu?” Mom asked. “Are you there?”

“Yes” The word had travelled up a long tunnel inside of her. “Mommy, you said, what exactly happened?”

“He swallowed an overdose of Paracetamol. He is in the ICU now and he will be fine. God was not ready for him to die, that is all,” Mom said. The sound of her nose-blowing was loud over the phone. “Do you know he also took anti-nausea so that the medicine would stay in his stomach?”

“God was not ready for him to die, I am coming tomorrow,” Kosisochukwu said.

Nigeria is among the countries with no national suicide prevention strategy and it is something we must key into by reducing access to the means of suicide.

The strategy, according to WHO, includes “responsible reporting of suicides by the media” to avoid the risk of inspiring copycat attempts as well as care for people suffering from mental and substance use disorders, chronic pain and emotional distress.

Kosisochukwu stood on the walk-way for a long time, and imagined Yagazie taking the pills. “What was he thinking? Paracetamol, mere Paracetamol; he must have read that an overdose could kill. Did he think of me or how Mom would have felt at his demise? Ahn-ahn, his bed, his room, would have been empty forever.”

After Yagazie came home from the hospital, she searched his face, his words, for a sign, for a proof that it had really almost happened. She felt her tears and her questions gathering. Why had he done it? She had not asked him because the therapist had said that it was best not to ask him anything yet.

According to WHO suicide ranking, with 15.1 suicides per 100,000 populations in a year, Nigeria is the 30th most suicide-prone (out of 183 nations) in the world and also, ranked 13th African country with higher rates of suicide.

Many of those who have been interviewed in recent times said they attempted taking their lives after bouts with depression. And these, more than ever before, are depressing times, with insecurity and hard times biting even harder, it is not too difficult to understand why many are taking the suicidal route, especially in Nigeria.

Indeed, the harsh economic condition has led to all sort of mental health challenges among the populace that could result in suicidal instincts. Yet, Nigerians must be encouraged to become more open as they grapple with their frustrations.

Many suicide notes are filled with confessions that the victims had no one to talk to. It is on this note I encourage that, trauma centers manned by seasoned psychologists, psychiatrists and sociotherapists be set up for counseling purposes.

Where government fails to set up trauma centers, communities and faith-based organizations should be active in providing care and counseling to members of single parenting household, out-of-job youths, drug addicts and rape victims, as this set forms the bulk of those with suicidal tendencies.

 

I grew up in a slum where every kid smells filthy, always smudged with mud, bullied by the bourgeoisie and feeds on crumbs and left-overs of the rich.

We ran around the streets with our tattered rags as clothes, some of us hawk pure water and buns for our poor mothers. We struggled to feed at the expense of our lives, and from our gloomy windows, we peered at the rich kids with their school bags hung on their backs seated comfortably in their parents luxurious cars with air conditioner, driving to school every morning. But all we could do was to watch behind our façade of misery and poverty.

A decade ago, I lost a close friend who was running in-between cars in the market looking for who to patronise his little pure water business. If the beast with 36 heads had cared for the homeless and helpless children, my friend would still be full of life today-- but we couldn't put up with the hunger anymore as our stomachs nagged, it got to a point where Chidera my best friend had to sneak behind a kiosk to steal some snacks, but unfortunately hell smirked at him as he was caught, ripped, whipped and beaten to death, after which they pushed a big tyre on his torso, bathed him with petrol and set him ablaze.

I reel when my fragile heart weeps whenever the horror scenery flashes my mind. I wish God would understand why he had to steal, forgive him and grant him a space in His kingdom. May his soul continue to rest in peace.

You don't know how it feels to hustle as a kid; running errands without getting anything in return while your stomach taut. Worst when you have a blind mother who always feels bad of herself for not being able to provide for her children. Then left with no other choice, you decides to steal and  feed your poor mother and baby brother. That was Chidera's predicament.

I can imagine how he must have felt when he saw heavy sticks all raised in the air and landing thunderously on him as he scurdled and folded himself in horror. Chidera was everything good; he was compassionate, he was smart, full of life and also brave. But because of a poor disorganized mentality of the hood triggered by the ugly beast with 36 heads, chidera was killed.

It's never a crime to be born poor; what I consider a crime is not having a compassionate heart. An orphan in the street once ran to a car I was in, stuck in traffic and without letting him to beg, I dipped my hand inside my pocket and squeezed some Naira notes in his hands. He was so happy that he kept thanking me over and over again, and I was at peace; I was very happy knowing I've made someone smile. But what the poor kid don't know is that I'm also from the street.

If only we can make the world a better place.

I know there are good wealthy souls out there, and if you're reading this, please lend a helping hand to the children in despair suffering in the streets whenever you can. Their only crime was to be born poor.

We might still be in the slum, but we see light at the end of the tunnel. And as the rich kids, we are also the leaders of tomorrow.

Cheers to the ones we've lost on the way!.

#Ikemefuna.

©️ London Lucky Talbot ✍️

AN OPEN LETTER TO MY FEAR.

Dear Fear,

 How have you been? I hope you are not still trying to reenter my kingdom because you have been dethroned and banished.

You know your atrocities, you know how much pain you have caused me, you have made me believe I am useless, you have made me believe I am a failure, you have belittled me, limited me and made nought my potentials before my eyes, you have made me a shadow of my original self, you invited your brothers inferiority complex, self doubt and low self esteem to join in tormenting me, you made me hide in the shell of "I can't do it" like a tortoise hiding from danger, you made my movement slow like a snail.

Helplessly, I allowed you rule cover me in tyranny, I allowed you dictate my progress, I allowed you restrict my potentials, I almost allow you turn me into a nonentity, I believed your lies, I saw you as a god, I worshipped, treasured and feared you, I allowed you make my thoughts suicidal, I couldn't do anything because you told me  I couldn't,  I allowed you commit more and more atrocities against me.

Subsequently, I went deep into the  shell of limitations, stagnancy and failure. I was continuously tormented by your brothers. I wallowed in self pity, unhappiness and conflict of the heart, mind and brain. I continuously believe everything you and your brothers told me. I seeked consolation from the hands of my diary, television and song  but it didn't suffice. I longed for freedom. I saw no future with you.

LIFE was the only thing you left with me. You thought that you have won and that you have rendered me completely useless. You thought there is no hope again for me, little did you know that " As long as a tree still has its root, it still have life". I started searching for redemption. I found salvation. Complete salvation!.  You have nothing but sorrow, limitations, failure and tears to offer me. I am sick and tired of it! I want freedom like a caged eagle released to sour high into the skies of success, perfection, fulfillment and achievement.

Therefore, I ban you and your brothers from my dome. I dethrone you and your brothers from my kingdom. Your ruler ship is over!
Your godship ends now! Complete believe has been  enthroned. I have a new king.  This new king has help me unlock my potential. Do well to send my regard to your brothers.

A LITTLE PRIDE

By Chinenye Ozoemena

A little pride isn't a crime, is it?
If you are a little puffed up, you will not be out of human being.
Being a little respectful to yourself will not kill you.

About three years ago, one of my mom's friends called me to help her create a Facebook account. While, I was creating it, her daughter of 10 or 11 years old said, 'I know Facebook, they use to use it and beg money and card', we laughed loud, especially because of the way she said it with happiness and passion. She went further to say, 'Aunty Osase them(her aunts)  use to do it'. Those sentences she made never left my head. Each time I remember it, I shake my head at how lowly, some ladies/girls/women have brought womanhood to.

The other time, few days to Christmas, I saw a post daring girls to make their hair with their money and leave their boyfriends. I was angry to say the least, I was infuriated, irritated  when I saw "Haha" emoji from some girls.

It is so wrong, very wrong and foolish to go about begging people for card or cash, especially if you are a lady It is not right one bit.

Why not make your money?
Why not work with your hands?
Why not use your potentials?
That voice, is it for fancy?
That cool dancing step nko?
Your brain nko?
Skills nko?

Don't you know your brain has a lot of space? What about filling that space? Make money! And spend it extravagantly if you like.

Asking from males is the most annoying part of the whole thing. You destroy your pride by doing that.
Babe, you have got to wear little pride.

Begging males for card or cash, puts you in a position of being asked for your maidenhead.

Darling, the guy(except for few) that sends you cards or money, sees it normal to ask you for your dignity as a woman. Some will try to emotionally blackmail you.

Come on!
Babe, you can do more than that nah.
You are given the vast universe to explore and satisfy. Please explore it and take dominion.

God didn't just give you earth to live but also to WORK and RULE OVER IT.

Carry yourself with pride and people will assist you carry you.

Hold you in esteem..
Walk with a little pride.
Be puffed up small.

Wake up

 By Chinenye Ozoemena

There was time, I felt useless.

There was a time, I felt I was a failure.

There was a time, I planned suicide.

There was a time, I ran away from people for fear of being rejected.

There was a time, I made Television, Writing and Music, my acquaintance.

There was a time, I dread stepping out the house.

There was a time, I felt a housewife is the only thing I am capable of being.

There was a time, I hated God.

There was a time, I would cry when sent on an errand, that takes me outside the house( you don't want to imagine).

There was a time, The doctor said, I carry  a lot of loads, whereas I don't but the heaviness of my heart constituted that load.

There was a time,  I was lonely.

There was a time, I was a liability.

There was a time, I was a failure.

There was a time, 'wetting my pillow' was a way of life.

There was a time, I was ruled by fear.

There was a time,  my best friend and all my friends left me.

There was a time, I ate tears, drank unhappiness and sharing a bed with pain.

I write this with tears in my eyes.
I have always wanted to tell people, especially young people, my story but it will have to wait for now.

I was fifteen when I realised, "Life is not a bed of roses but of thorns".
I was fifteen when I wanted to commit suicide.
I was fifteen when I concluded God does not exist.
I was fifteen when I went running into my shell.
I was fifteen when I started running away from people.
I was fifteen when I lost my radiant smile.
I was fifteen when I believed a housewife was my calling.
I was fifteen when I cut off any form of friendship.
I was fifteen when I became a shadow of my original self.

(If I continue, you will grow weary)

I am out of my shell now.

I was completely out of my shell.

The days of my tears is over.

It is now my time to rule the world.

I have the world at the tip of my finger.

I have not fully conquered but I am conquering.

Taking charge.

Filling the world with my presence.

Making sure I leave my footprint in the sand of time.

The world is mine!

Hey?!
You!
Yes, you.
Are you still dwelling in your pains?
Are you making impact? Have you concluded you are useless? Are you like me? Running from your shadow?
Come on! Face that fear, tell him, you are wiser, stronger and faster.

You were given this world to explore. There is nothing GOD didn't place under you. Make the most of it.

You are the captain of your life. Inferiority complex, fear, self-doubt, low self-esteem are your prisoners and not your lords.

Wake up! You have got everything  you need to be a success, right inside of you. You are to rule and take dominion over the earth.

Every great person you see or read about or heard about had a story, they lived in pain too, they had days when they felt completely useless, they experience those pains you are experiencing and even more. But they woken up and controlled it.

You are born for greatness.
Nothing limits you.
You are the only obstacle, you have
Wake up! And rule!
Stop the pity party and face the task ahead.
Walk pass the sorrow because when you  do, you see the victory.
Wake up! And conquer..
Wake up! And lead.
You are the captain of the ship of your life and not fear or self-doubt.

I have arrived!

By Chinenye Ozoemena

A disease more terrible than Corona virus, that has caused destruction in the lives of many honourable and reputable men and woman, In the lives of some "upcoming" great people and even in the lives of some pauper is what i call "I HAVE ARRIVED". It is very callous.

Let's use David as an instance.

David, a man after God's heart. God himself called David, "A man after my own heart".David, God's right hand man, felt "I have arrived" in 2sam 11:1.

Have you seen it?
No?!
Ok wait let me show you...AT THE TIME WHEN KINGS GO FORTH TO BATTLE, that David SENT Joab, and his servants with him, and all Israel; and they destroyed the children of Ammon, and besieged Rabbah. But David TARRIED still at Jerusalem..Do you see it?

David said within  himself, " I have  tried for God . Look at all the things  I have done for God.I have won so many battles. Even the big guns when it comes to battle are following me . Oh ,i have arrived!. Israel can count battles that I won for them? Let me rest! Joab and others will  fight.  God, understand.

That is it o!

David felt he had arrived.
David was not lying, was he?
Of course, David had arrived.
All the exploit he did made him worthy of "I have arrived".
He has worked for God from his youth.
He abstain from all unrighteousness and anything that stains the soul.
He followed after chastisement,and holiness.
God loved him and blessed his generation.
He  went about his duties without a wavering faith.
He saved God's people.
He hated what God hates.
He worship God with his heart, soul, body and spirit.
He was faithful to God and God's people.
He did justice uprightly.

And the list goes on... but the moment he felt he had arrived, doom consumed him. He fell into the hands of God. We all know it is a dreadful thing to fall into God's hands.

God cursed him in 2sam 12::10-12.
Uncle David, a man after God's  heart, was cursed of the Lord, his household with him.

If you go further, you would see how he was humiliated.
Whatever your achievement may be, however blessed you are; the moment you believe you have arrived, the moment you exalt yourself, the moment you are doing nothing to attain more height, the moment you feel you need not struggle again; your doom is surely hovering around.

You can never arrive!
You keep evolving!
You keep rebranding!
You never arrive!

When you achieve those dreams of yours, and do not improve them, get more dreams, you go in extinction.
You can never arrive! You can only continue arriving.

There is nothing like "I have arrived". You continue arriving.

APPRECIATE YOUR "YOU".

By Chinenye Ozoemena

We often feel God made a mistake creating us "us".
I was walking to a stall down the street with my stick sweet in my mouth...

Yes, you heard me right. I love stick sweets.

Me sef, I tire for me.

Funny enough, stick sweet is a source of "you can do it" to me.

Laugh, if e catch you.

Back to our talk.I was walking when I remembered adults ought not to walk around with stick sweets.

Fortunate for me, I am not an adult.

At 20, you are not an adult? Yes, I am not.
Those that know me in person can attest to the fact that "pikin" should have been my name. At times, while walking on the road, I will just jump or shout spontaneously before I remember adults ought not to do so.

 I am a "pikinadult".
That characteristic among others is what i hated about myself. I often try to behave maturely so as to be accepted by people. It only makes me uncomfortable in my own skin.

My height inclusive. There was a time I prayed in tears for God to reduce my height. I can not even wear heels; If I do, I will become the center of attention and I hated it.

My melancholic nature too; I was and am too shy, I can not talk in a company of three, except I am very fond of the group(I'm better now sha). Whenever we had visitors in the house, I would remain inside the room until they left.

Also, my long neck; some people had called me to ridiculously ask why neck is long.

My walking steps too; it is, people say, "shakaralous"

My slender body; I wanted to be a little fat.

My childish voice; my voice is immature, making some people treat me like a child.

I also hated the fact that I have not gotten admission into the university.

I smile a lot. It gets some people irritated.

The list goes on.
I hated a lot of features about myself. I never appreciated my body, voice, personality and so on. I questioned God.
There were times I concluded God made a mistake creating me "me".

I had a lot of "I wish".

As I walked down that street with my stick sweet, I reminisced on the negative effect this hatred had on me. It dawn on me that I was only looking at it from a negative angle.

You know what?...
My childish nature, i have realised, helped me make friends. Make me feel my skin. Made me easily befriend children. I feel complete behaving like that.

My smiling face, improved my business.
I have seen people that what they need for that day is your smile, then they are all smiles. I am glad I have that contagious smile.

My height and physique, gotten the admiration of ladies and men alike. I have heard comment like "model go fit you", "I like this your height", " I wish say I tall like you". This is the body I hated o.

My melancholic temperament taught me how to read, imagine, and write. I have been able to create pictures in my head, think deep, and build a strong wall of imagination as a result of my solitude. This birthed this writer you see now.

I discovered I am better than so many "so-called" graduates. I remember going for interview in a company and also a school, where my application letter was requested. I presented it but was surprise when I saw the surprising looks on the interviewers faces. They became skeptical, doubting my academic attainment. "Are you sure it is only secondary school you went to?", this particular question built my self-esteem.

A friend told me, "'when I heard your voice, I thought you are the "anything goes" type but when I came close, i found that anything does not actually go'.  My voice is deceptive. I love that!

If I walk for you ehh? You will think I am contesting for a beauty pageant. Brothers and sisters, that is my walking step. Why should I hate it?

While licking my stick sweet, I came to the conclusion, I was not appreciative at all. These are wonderful things about me, why then was I questioning God? Why do I have to be ashamed of licking my stick sweet? Huh? I was only trying to fit into people's creame de la creame. You need not like me and my "me". It is my "me" not your "me". I can never be you.

PS: Learn to appreciate your "you". Until you do that nobody will accept and appreciate you.

You must love yourself for people to love you.

HOW TO PREPARE PEPPERED CHICKEN

By Chinenye Ozoemena

Cooking has always been my hobby especially when the ingredients is complete but sadly I am not a good Cook.               

Peppered chicken is a chicken recipe that can be an addition to Nigeria party rice and jollof rice. It can also be used as a snack that should be sent down with chill soft drink to take the eater to cloud nine.

 Ingredients:
1) Chicken
2) Tatashe pepper
3) Habanero pepper
4) Onions
5) Vegetable oil
6) Stock cubes(Maggi)
7) Thyme
8) Salt

Before cooking:
1) Slice some of the onion and cut the remaining into small pieces.
2) Remove the seed from the tatashe pepper, cut them into small pieces and blend with hand blender.
3) Clean the chicken, cut them to your desired sizes, place in a bowl and add  thyme, diced onion,stock cube. Massage the mixed chicken together with you hand. Cover and put in the fridge to marinate for an hour.

Direction
1)Turn the marinated chicken in a pot, pour some water and start cooking.
2) When the chicken is done, grill or broil in an over until golden.
3) Pour the vegetable oil in a dry pot and hear it up.
4) Add the blended pepper and fry till the water dries up.
5)  Add the grill or broil chicken into the fry tatashe pepper, stir well with a spatula till the popping red pepper have coated the chicken.
6)Add salt if necessary.



Now serve with any soft drink . It can be addition to Nigeria party rice jollot rice.
Try it! Then you tell me your testimony.

Listen Singles

By Chinenye Ozoemena

Brothers and Sisters, please come. We need to talk, we have a very serious discussion.

Brother, wait first.

Sister?
What are you doing now?
What are you doing while waiting for uncles to you take home?
How well are you preparing for his coming?
How are you fulfilling destiny?
Are you waiting for uncle to come and save you from the clutches of poverty?
Are you hoping that what happens in Nigeria movie, where the prince always save a slave girl from the monstrous hand of poverty and maltreatment will happen to you?
Are you among those people that think that SEX is the only thing a man needs?
Are you enlarging your boobs and bum bum and even wearing heavy make up just to allure our brothers, but you are an empty container?
Do you know brother will eventually get tired  of your big asset( boobs and bum bum) and go in search of a bigger one?
Don't you know that you honeypot will eventually become bitter leaf to the brother, if care is not taken?

Oh!  I get it!
You are a virgin!
Wow! Wonderful
What happens next?
After the brother break the hymen, what happens?
It takes only one touch to break it ! What will the brother  do with your hymen ,please? I agree that brother's trust on you will becoming solid but that shoudn't be all!

Now...
My sister! Omo ge! Sisi mi! Aburobia mme!

Invest in yourself.
Unleash your potentials.
Wake the sleeping giant in you.

Come on!
You can offer more than just SEX and VIRGINITY.

Gain value.
Rise your head high.
Utilize your single hood.
There is your opportunity to do anything doable. Become an actress, businesswoman, singer, writer and so on.
Anything! Absolutely anything!

My sister,your matter is long, my fingers are paining me

Brother, come closer.
Good!
So how do we talk this type of one ehh?

While talking with a friend, he asked me a very silly question, "Don't you want to get experience" He asked me that because I told him, I am not ready for a relationship now.

My brother
Are you experimenting on someone's daughter?
Are you looking for a lady to use and dump?
Is your erection your leader?
Is your erection leading you to the destruction of another man's daughter?
Are you purpose driven?
Or are you living life "as you see am"?

Well brother
Have you heard about KARMA?
Do you not know that the evil that man do, living with them now and not after them?
Is that how you are preparing for Hanty to join you?
How you are preparing ni?
What will you offer our Hanty?
Have you even bothered to learn how you will treat Sister, when she eventually come?

I think my questions are self explanatory

My advice is that you continue enjoying yourself and expecting Karma.

I Am in love with failure

By Chinenye Ozoemena

Over the years, I have come to discover something strange, something ironic. I realised failure is not bad as we think it is. It is not a curse after all. It is actually a blessing in disguise. It is like gold in dirt. It is like a diamond covered in faeces. It is a generous giver. It gives hope, it waken sleeping giant. It is comparable to a gentle lover. To be sincere, I AM IN LOVE WITH FAILURE!.

Yap?
I'm not mad.
I know what I am saying .
Nobody should bring chain here , if you try me now, I will bite you😏

Failure should even be praised, better still worshipped as a god...

Don't give me that look😕😕😕

Craze e no dey catch me o.
"This one wey u dey luk me laidis ehh... I fit bite o."

Failure is a part of our everyday life.
Everyone of us have had our fair share of the goodness of this god FAILURE.

As a child, we fail continuously while trying to sit, stand, walk and talk too. We said words like Nana, Nene etc before we learnt how to say Mummy, Mom, Mama etc. Abi I lie?

Shebi wen u small, you first fail before u con sabi sit down, standup, waka and run?

Good!

In school, some of us met failure face to face, we conversed with failure. If you didn't fail, well kudos to you! But me, I failed over and over again. I even nicknamed myself FAILURE. Some of us wrote WAEC, GCE, UTME and NECO a million times that the boards of examination became familiar with our names. Some of us tasted failure's soup and enjoyed its sauce.

Outside school, failure still met us, trying to frustrate us(you may be saying "yet you are saying failure is not bad).

Now let's talk.

What does Failure mean?

*  It is the omission of an expected or a required action.
*  It is not meeting or matching up to standard.
*  It is the absence or lack of success.
*  Na when you neva reach where abi wetin you suppose or wan reach.

Alfred Lord Tennyson wrote, "That which we are, we are; One equal temper of heroic hearts, Made weak by time and fate, but strong in will. To strive, to seek, to find, and NOT TO YIELD.

That's it!
Failure is yielding!

Failure becomes bad when you yield. It was a curse when you don't see the gold in it. It is only when you look beyond the unpleasant smell of that faeces, that you find diamond hidden in it.
Failure itself is not bad, quitting is.

Accepted that faeces, search out the diamond in it. Don't throw it away.

Embrace it for in it, lies success.

Failure reveals you.
Failure opens you.
Failure teaches you.
Failure humbles you.
Failure wakes you.
Failure empowers you.

Did you think Thomas Edison did not fail before he eventually found out that a carbonized bamboo filament could last for 1200 hours?
Thus, light bulb was invented.

What of Mark Zuckerberg? You think he just invented Facebook without failing?

Albert Einstein ? The atomic bomb was easy to invented right?

What about Oprah Winfrey ? You think owning a Media House from nothing was easy?

What do you think of Abraham Lincoln?

Do You know how many animation company Walt Disney built that got scattered?

Billionaire Cosmos Maduka too failed!
Dropout, sacked, and failed in business but now he is billionaire in Nigeria. Was that easy?

Don Jazzy was a dropout, security guard and drummer before ! He worked his way to success. Did you think it was an easy job?

Mercy Johnson failed UTME and was a maid. Isn't she successful in the field she chose?

Muhammad Buhari contested for presidency three times and failed. Isn't he our president now?

You see? Failure ought to be a god. It deserves praises. Failure is a friend and an  enemy. It does what success can not do.

Walt Disney said, "All of my obstacles have STRENGTHENED me, you may not realise it when it happens, but  A KICK IN THE TEETH may be the best in the world for you".

Failure is a kick in the teeth.
You need that kick to be strong.
Failure is that push you need to succeeded.

Fall head over heel in love with FAILURE.
Let it kiss you tenderly.
Allow it caress you.
Feel its touches.
Enjoy its sweetness.

I know!
I know the pain and sorrow that accompanies it.
I know the smell that comes with this diamond.
The disgrace.
The fear.
The inferiority complex.
The self doubt.
I know!

I have failed before and it is not an enjoyable experience but if you want succeed, accept it yet don't yield(don't allow it discourage you).

It makes you think you are useless and worthless.

Never yield!
Never quit!
Never agree you can't succeed!

I'm grateful I met failure. You should too.

Christianity versus hypocrisy

By Chinenye Ozoemena

I WILL BE BLUNT HERE LETTING MY EMOTIONS PURGE OUT.

Who sold that rubbish to you?         
Huh?
Who have bewitched your understanding?
Ehh?
Who told you that posting " hellfire is real and heaven is real" on Facebook is Christianity?
Who told you that being a member of any church automatically makes a Christian?
Who told you that wearing senator's wear, plain trousers and suits is a requirement for right living?
Who told you that tying scarf around you head and ears too, wearing long skirts and gowns, and refusing to put on heels makes you a Christian?
Who told you that leaving you hair natural  and wearing no make-up qualifies you for the title and the world"Christian"?
Who told you that because you are a chorister, pastor, prayer warrior, teacher, pastor's child, an usher, Apostle, Evangelist and so on, you are a Christian?
Who told you that walking "gentlemanly" and "Holi holi" is Christianity?
Who told you that because you are a virgin, you are a Christian?
Who sold that shit to you?
Haaa!
No wonder you are an hypocrite.
Why were the disciples of Jesus called Christian in Antioch?
Because they were virgins? And modest in dressing? Spoke in diverse tongues?
No! No! No!
They were called Christian because they resemble Christ in character, appearance, conversation, action, reaction, just name it. They were Christlike. They were not hiding under the canopy of their churches and under modesty.
You doubt me?
Oya turn with me to Acts 11:26
I think you have seen it?
Thank God you did!

Sometime ago, I told two of my Christian friends on different occasions that I have backslidden and their replies left my mouth open.
One asked "So you are no longer a virgin?"
The other one asked 'So you now wearing trousers?"
I was like "So that is your definition of Christianity?" Virginity? Trousers?

Don't you know these(modesty and Christian titles) are not the most essential aspect of Christianity?
Or do you just want to be ignorant?
Or God has already given you the reprobate heart he promised?
Do you even have a testimony? Yes! Testimony? Testimony of salvation! Or is your testimony '" I was born in my church" and " my father is pastor and my mother, a women leader'?
Have you been to the cross at all?
Have you ever been metamorphosed?

Dressing like a Christian and being a Christian are two very different things. They can not and should not be in the same group.
The moment you give your life to Christ hmm? A fraction of God's spirit called THE EARNEST OF THE HOLY SPIRIT(2 Cor 1:22 & 5:5) enters you. HE(that is the spirit) will not allow you leave your house in any seductive dress. You don't need to be taught how to dress. HE will direct you, that's if you yield. What am I trying to pass across to you? What message is this write up portraying? Get the most valued treasure, only then can you get the less valued treasure. Get salvation first, then modesty follows, title too, good character also.  Salvation is paramount.

I heard of a woman who would always said "If you want am full now, I go keep bible first, give you wetin you want later I will tell God sorry", she claims to be a Christian but she is ready to fight and apologized to God later. If you see this sister(abi woman 'self) skirt and gown ehh? E dey sweep ground o.

Another friend of mine, who is a chorister with a melodious voice, when you see her dancing " One corner one corner" here? You will be asking if this is the same sister.

There are some so called brother that go about singing repent here on Facebook but when you get close to them ehh? unbeliever are better than them.

How can someone who have not been saved be a Christian?
How can someone who doesn't have the fruits of the spirit be a Christian?

You have not been saved and you think you can exhibit the fruits of the spirit? Impossible! If you were saved and you lost your way, return back to Bethel or leave the Church and stop causing blame in the ministry of Christ.

That is why we have so many hypocrite in the body of Christ.

After salvation then modesty becomes pleasant to the eyes.

Is envy really a bad emotion?
Is it a sin?

By Chinenye Ozoemena

Are you sure about that accusation on envy?

Oh Envy!
Come! i pray thee and answer for yourself. Art thou, my dearest maiden, evil? Doest thou evil in the midst of men? Come! Come tender damsel and speak thine innocence.

Envy is not the enemy. Envy is not a villain! It is in fact an hero, but to only those who allow it save them.
Before this discovery, I was in a thought conflict. I was wondering why I am envious yet I never wish whoever I am envious of bad. I thought over and over again until I came to the realisation that ENVY, just like failure, is not guilty of crimes we accuse it of.

For clarification, I went into researching and discovered, ENVY is really innocent. Envy is not bad as we think.

Let me explain.
First thing is first, What is Envy?

* It is an emotion which occurs when a person lacks another person's superior quality, achievement, or possessions.
* It is a feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone's else possessions, qualities or luck.
* It is the desire to have a quality, possession or other desirable thing belonging to others.
* Na wen anoda pesin get wetin dey hungry you.

Aristotle defined Envy as "the pain at the sight of another person's good fortune, stirred by those who have what we ought to have".

Bertrand Russell said Envy is one of the most potent cause of unhappiness.

What?!
Am I contradicting  myself?
Yeah, I noticed it too.
How can I say it is not bad but then in my definition, I stated it causes PAIN, UNHAPPINESS AND RESENTMENT?

Definitely, Chinenye is confused.
But wait o!
I have not explained it nah.
I almost stop the research but I found something. Maybe I am not weird after all, Maybe i am not the only person that is envious.
Hmmm...

Please, pay rapt attention and please answer my questions.

Have you ever felt envious of Dangote?

Have you felt you can sing better than Mercy Chinwo?

Have you ever been envious of that your friend that passed an examination well and feel you can do better than he/she did if you put more effort?

Have you ever seen a writeup on social media and feel "I can write better" or "I wish I can do this"?

Have you ever been restless because someone else has or know something you don't?

Have you seen someone "blowing grammar" and you are unhappy you don't know how to?

Have you ever been resentful at yourself for not knowing, achieving, and having something?
You are an envious person!

I, Chinenye Ozoemena, am a very envious person. I am envious of Mercy Chinwo, Judikay, Simi, Esther Charles, Chichi Miracle, and so on. When you have what I don't have, I envy you and I work towards getting what you have! I am envious of every good thing.

When you see a beautifully sown cloth, you envy it!
What of shoe and Bags?

But...but that is admiration.
Yes! it is!
Envy is admiration.

My findings says, there are two major types of Envy
1)Malicious Envy
2) Benign Envy

                              (1)
Malicious Envy is an unpleasant emotion that causes the envious person to want to bring down the envied even at their own cost. This is the type of envy we know about, the type we used as a standard of judgement on ENVY. This type caused its victims to become evil or wicked.

                             (2)
Benign Envy is type of envy that makes its victims aspired to be better they are. It has a positive effect on its victims. I call it HEALTHY ENVY!

* It makes someone hardworking.
* It causes emulation.
* It motivates.
* it improves.
* it leads to success.

Do you know that envy improve the Economy, Churches, Schools, and  everything? Think about it yourself.

I found Envy is, in itself, is not bad, your reactions to that emotion determines if it will been good or bad..
Check it nah! Calculate it nah!

Do you get?
I hope with this few points you would agree with me that  Envy is not bad emotion.

People are watching

By Chinenye Ozoemena

'I know you'

'Me?! Where? How?', I questioned the usher in a curious and surprise tone.

He smiled and reply, 'I know your mummy, the church you people use to go, your brothers and sister. I even know Daddy'.

I looked at him trying to remember where I may have met him.

'I was even saying, he continued, that if not that I was engaged and you were too small that time, I will marry you'.

I looked at him as he sat and said within myself, 'Who will agree to marry you sef? you are too short abeg... I cannot marry short person o'.

'I approached you one day but you did not even look at my face. Chai! Shame catch me that day', he added while laughing.

We laughed.

'I never for once saw you with any boy. Always on your own. Every time you will be going to church and you will carry your younger ones. I use to look at you that time. Very different!', he concluded.

'But where did you know me? ' I asked with keen eyes and ear.

'In your former compound' he finally reveal.

'But I have not seen you before?' I inquired defeatedly.

'Eeh...Yes! I use to live in that other street, not your street . The one you do  pass when you are going to church', he explained.

'I hope you have not changed?' he questioned with a look that seem to be searching my eyes and body for answer to the rhetorical question.

This happened some months ago, when we had moved from our previous apartment to another area entirely. We needed somewhere to worship as our parish was far, so we enter and worshipped in the church this usher worships.

This usher(head usher) was smiling at me, the very momemt we entered the church. In my mind, I was like 'Are you sure he is not one of them(😉😯)? . Even inside church? God! Mercy!'

Usher went  about telling the members, I am a good girl.

It was when this happened that I fully understand what my mom meant whenever she says "People are watching and they will report".

Of a truth, people are watching.
Those things you are doing, thinking you are safe. Kai! Kai! you are definitely not safe.

Whatever you are doing, just know people are watching.

You may need their recommendation in the future.

Shhhh!
Lemme talk to you
Don't tell anybody
Some funny women were booking me for their brothers.
Shhhh! Don't shout nah. Keep it down!
Not one, Not two, Not three, Not four.
Funny people!😂😂😂 Nobody should laugh at me o unless...

People are watching.
You doubt me?
Make one mistake nah, let them broadcast you.

Here on social media huh?
People are still watching.
We call them "monitoring spirit".
What they say about you will either make you or mar you.

Rubbish post? Stop it.
Argument? Stop it.
(I was once guilty of this one, going from post to post, group to group, looking for what to argue. It was not until I understand it was destroying my brand that I stopped).

It is time to think before acting.

How to know a guy likes you (Guy's secret)

By henzpen

When a guy likes a girl, he can't help but shows how he feels. He can't just suppress that feeling or emotions. Unlike girls, they can hide their feelings from a guy they like without showing it.

Guys are easily moved by what they see ( physical appearance). But girls are mostly stimulated by what they hear and feel.

These are some guy code to know if he is into you

1. Eye Contact:  Interesting right. I know most guys have eye contact with any girl they see either at the mall, on the street, in market place and thereabout. But any guy who always keep a long stare at you in such an amicable way, is surely into you. Guys keep eye contact with most girls but if it is becoming frequent, then it's a shot. If he tells a joke or says something funny, his eyes will glance towards you to see if you’ve laughed. If he looks away quickly when you catch him looking, he’s probably interested and shy. This is especially important to remember. If his head turns ridiculously quickly, he is likely shy. Have patience and you’ll get more opportunities for eye contact!

2. Body Language: Both boys and girls possess this sign. When I guy start  smiling at you or when he tries to do something to impress you, then he definitely likes you. When a guy likes a girl, he feels uncomfortable or unnecessary awkward around you. Either he suddenly goes dump or he talks less. Whenever he touches his hair or neck when talking to you, he might just be into you.

3.Dress to impress: when a guy put in more energy and new style in dressing when you are around means he is probably into you. When I guy looks smart and well dress when he visits you, it is a big sign.

4. His friends knows you: A guy's friend might know a couple of his female friends but when you hear them chating with your name or maybe when you are in a lecture hall and they keep on looking at your direction when chating, then he might be into you. When his friends smile or leave the premises in a funny way when you are approaching them, it means they know his crush is coming. Interesting right!!!

5. He compliments you always: When a guy always compliment you or tell you how nice your outfit looks all the time, he might just be fully into you. Guys sometimes compliments random girls but when this guy compliment you over and over, then he might just be into you. It could be unique tidbits about your personality, or he could notice subtle changes in your hairstyle.

In fact, sometimes it may not even be a compliment, but the fact that he have noticed that you’ve changed your hairstyle or used different make-up.

If he notice, it means he is paying attention to you, and he probably like you.

Also, not many guys are great at giving compliments, so keep your ears out and notice when he says something that could even be remotely viewed as a compliment. If you’ve noticed that he doesn’t really compliment others, then he probably likes you.

6.Makes effort to talk to you: If he tries to start a conversation with you at all cost. When you notice he is all over you, then it is a good sign he likes you. Guys won't just force serious conversation with someone they don't like. So when he try to talk to you at any slightest opportunity, then it is a go go.

7. Gets jealous when you talk to other guys: He get jealous when he sees you talking to other guys. Either he walks away or he becomes unnecessary angry. He likes you and he wouldn't want to trade you for anything but he doesn't have the courage. The next time you speak to him, he may appear angry or disgruntled. This is a clear sign that he’s jealous.

And don’t worry, as soon as you signal your interest with a nice, beautiful smile, I’m sure he’ll come around again.

8. He teases you: When a guy like a girl, he looks for any slightest opportunity to tease her. Like saying some funny jokes about you or looking for your trouble playfully. Remember, some guys will do this a little awkwardly, and they might not be very good at it. They might even insult you.

But there’s no need to get insulted. After all, they’re just trying to let you know that they like you!.

9. He remember little things: It is so difficult for a guy to remember most things a girl tells him( even me) but when a guy remember those little things you told him about yourself, maybe your birthday or the names of your siblings, then he is into you. He’s thinking about you. He wants to stay connected and develop rapport.

Most people, let alone guys, wouldn’t do this, so see it as a sign that he has genuine feelings for you.

                         Over texting


1. When he replies your text immediately: a guy maybe be on various social media at a time but when he respond to your text immediately, then know you are really special.

2. He text you first : Generally speaking, it’s usually a bad sign if you’re the one that’s always starting conversations with the guy you like. In fact, that’s usually how to know if a guy is not interested in   you through text.

It also means the opposite is true. If he’s the one who usually texts first and initiates conversation, it’s because he likes you and wants to talk to you more.

3. He teases you: when he teases you when texting, either in a funny way or jokingly, then he likes you.

4. He uses emoji most times: when he use emoji to reply your text. Either happy emoji, in love emoji, then he likes you.

5. Doesn't send multiple text in a row: if a guy really likes a girl, he’s going to be really worried about seeming too desperate.

That means he’s going to avoid texting lots of times in a row without getting a text back.

A guy who wasn’t that into you or thought of you as a friend might not be so worried about looking desperate in front of you, and so might send a bunch of texts in a row.

But a guy who’s trying to “play it cool” because he likes you is going to avoid that – so if he doesn’t text you until you’ve texted him back, that’s a good sign.


This and many more are signs he likes you. Thanks

Love above Time

By Benson precious Victoriana

Our Creator made us to be different to serve a great purpose
But what he didn't create differently was Love,Which comes with a price.

And so the Creator gave us duties in which we will forever perform in the cycles of life.
The Creator however didn't give  Love its limits.

As days turned into weeks,weeks into months,months into years and more years,with the Master Time itself to control our ways,Love surpassed Time

Love did get into my Heart as it continued yeaning for your Heart

As Time kept passing us by,our Love kept waxing stronger and stronger with a desire to be bonded and made one.

Each time we tried to follow the magnetic law of attraction to become one,our physical makeup seemed to keep us apart causing us pains worst than death which we have not felt before
The pain of not being one,as Time kept on passing by our Love never stopped growing.

I realized Love is without a condition,it is self sacrificing,it was accepting our beautiful nature having the consciousness in our hearts that our Love is beyond the passing time,beyond the natural for it supersedes all things.

For it was Love himself who created us,For Love itself made us one,For Love itself United us

For my Heart was made incomplete on purpose by the Creator so it keeps on attracting it true pair,because the hearts finds itself in the natural world and gets bonded beyond the natural world

For this was the great wisdom Love taught me  and with the Master Time it taught me that a Love that grows in time and with patience last forever and is made unbreakable by even the Master Time itself.

If I haven't received this wisdom,with the haste to bond to my Beloveth,we would both have being destroyed.
Either my Love quenches my Beloveth or I get dissolved or we both cease to exist throwing away our responsibilities for a love born out of impatience,foolishness and selfishness.

A love whose price is priceless is eternal and within you

By Ifediora Comfort Tochukwu

If one day, we all are allowed to put our problems on a table and exchange them, I'm sure that after few minutes, everyone would silently take back their own & leave the table.

There is no such thing like a perfect life, nobody has it all together.

Just as our faces are different, so are our problems.

Never be envious of what someone else has. You don't know the price they paid to get it and the price they are paying to keep it.

You don't own half of the problems in this world.

While you are discreetly wishing to be like the other person, Someone else is seriously praying for that life you take for granted.

Sometimes the people you envy, are actually wishing they could have the life you live.

Be contented and cherish what you have.

You can be anything you want, just don't be ungrateful.

All will be well..

I come in peace...

Discovering yourself

By Nwakanma Henry aka henzpen.



Discovering can be seen as to find or to research more about something or someone. We all have gift and talent inside of us, and it is a must to use this gift or Talent. I discovered my writing talent at the age of 9. I wrote comic books by then and my mum always help Me in photocopying it. I discovered my talent at that tender age by God grace.

Talents are not to be buried they are too be used. Many people haven't discovered themselves even at this jet age and time which is unfortunate.
I wrote and published a novel at age 13 titled ' Destined twins'. Talent is that thing you are good at doing even when you are told to do it uninformed.


Discovering oneself had to do with this point below.

•Self esteem: Self-esteem is used to describe a person's overall sense of self-worth or personal value. In other words, how much you appreciate and like yourself. It involves a variety of beliefs about yourself, such as the appraisal of your own appearance, beliefs, emotions, and behaviors. Self esteem can also by developed by this ;

1. Believing in yourself: Have confidence that you are capable of doing any task that you know is possible. Tell yourself that you can and you will. My dad always tell us since small that  there is no 'I CAN'T' in his dictionary. And I was always ready to face any challenges life has to offer.

2. Have positive friend: Have friend you feel confident and happy when you are with them. Have you every have this feeling when you go to a place you haven't been before with your friends, you feel energized and confident. So keep right friends.

 3. Recognise what you are good at:  As I earlier said, know your talent and gift and work to achieve something with it. For instance, we were in a children camp with over 2500 children, my mum all of a sudden told me to address the children on discovering their talent, That was at age 15. I went boldly to speak to them because that's what I am good at. Discover your talent today.

 4.Focus: Don't worry about what people will say. Focus on what you want to achieve. Many people bench on what people will say. Will they laugh at me? Will they be happy? Will they mock me?. Take that bold step In your decision making.
 Also there are many type of self discovering. we have.

1.Physical self discovering:  Physical discovery is the discovering of one's physical abilities. What do you know how to do well. Either with your physical strength or handwork. Know your physical self and work on it to achieve great things in life.

 2.Emotional self discovering: Many people don't know about their emotional self. You must be able to control yourself when happy or sad. When laughing and sobbing. You must also be able to control your temper and also the way you feel about something or someone. I saw a movie were someone called the fiance (Lady) on her phone saying that the man has a child outside and this lady couldn't control her temper as she started scattering the man's stuff in his house. She broke his tv, cups, bulb and many other things. You must know how to control your emotions.

 3. Intellectual self discovering: Ya! This is one critical and Crucial discovery. You must know that you are not a duller. Every one have one head and you must use yours to discover things. It was human being who discovered the car, television, aircraft, ship, phone etc we are using today. They used their intellectual self mind to discover this things. Intellectual self discovering can also be seen as mental self discovering.

Financial self discovering:   Kylie jenner has become the youngest billionaire in the world at age 22 by Forbes. She is the founder of Kylie cosmetic. This young lady discovered her financial self and she is been celebrated today. So discover your financial self.

Moral self discovering: Everyone need to have a good moral self discovery. Know when to say 'good morning', 'please', ' I am sorry', ' excuse me' and so on. Always have a good moral value and norms because your moral attitude speaks well for you.

 Relationship self discovering: What do you want from a relationship and what do you have to offer. How do u feel when you fall in love with someone, how do you react. How do you relate with family member. How do u also relate to the community at large. You need to discover that also.

Finding yourself' is searching for your purpose in life, the reason of your existence. It is knowing yourself through your priceless daily experiences. It is a learning where 'you' are the student, 'you' are the teacher and the subject being taught is also 'you', and the classes are held 24/7 throughout your life.





Bio
Nwakanma Henry is a writer, poet, and an author. Hails from isuikwato in abia state. He is a student of micheal okpara university of agriculture umudike umuahia abia state.
Follow on all his social media handle(FB/IG/twitter) @ henzpen

The weakness of a competitor forms part of your own strength ... that's a real truth, I can say of a fact!!

A not far fetched experience I had was on a table tennis game recently.

Mr. Osas: "Your game eh, kai!"

Me: "I'm here to frustrate you and not the other way!"

You must note this please, there was never a more important time in history than right now to grow eyes in the back of your head.

As they say, "becoming number one is easier than remaining number one."

Mr. Osas won the first round, but couldn't sustain his victory and I won the second round.

The secret is simple, never stop learning from your competition and take note of the chinks in their armour.

What Mr. Osas forgot is that; in a game of two persons, if you're not first, you're last.

I avoided his strengths and found his greatest weakness as my key element to success, and I won him!!

Take it for free, in a noisy world like ours, you have to be creative to stand out and make a lasting impact.

Mr. Osas was complacent and satisfied with his moderate ability on the game of table tennis.

The early lead he had on the game, made him more vulnerable to fall prey.

Rod Laver penned, "the time your game is most vulnerable is when you're ahead."

My advice: Never let up! In rock climbing, once it's accomplished you need to find another source of motivation.

After all, you need to survive the climb down the other side.

PS: Don't gets too familiar with success!!

Hear the words of Dave Trott: "Creativity may well be the last legal unfair competitive advantage we can take to run over the competition."

Hope this makes sense?

If you use you brain, you will use less of your muscles.